Saturday, September 1, 2007

Photos: At the Boyces

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Andrew Kowski (3 years old) and Lydia
Back patio

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Andrew Kowski playing with a Thomas the Train laptop while Lydia observes

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Lydia feeding Andrew

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Jim Boyce and Lydia

Nursery that Jim and Julie are preparing for their little one who is due in December 2007





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Julie Boyce giving Lydia a Peter Rabbit stuffed animal

Nursery that Jim and Julie are preparing for their little one who is expected in December 2007


Note: All of these pictures were taken on August 26, 2007 at the home of Jim and Julie Boyce in Kirkland, WA.

Lessons Learned at Day Care

September 1, 2007


Lessons Learned at Day Care

From her three partial days at a Whizz Kids Academy this week, Lydia has learned some new things.

The first concerns personal hygiene. Traditionally after Lydia finishes a meal in her high chair, SiowFong or I will run warm water over Lydia’s washcloth, wring it, and then wipe Lydia’s hands and face with the washcloth once or twice, depending on how dirty those areas are. During those rare occasions when Lydia’s hands are extremely greasy, I will place a chair against the cabinet adjacent to the sink and wash Lydia’s hands with soap and water. After attending day care, Lydia began occasionally pointing to the sink and uttering noises at the same time to communicate to us that she wants to wash her hands.

The second concerns sleep time. Two or three nights ago, Lydia inclined her head to the left and placed her left hand on her left cheek to indicate that she was fatigued and wanted to go to sleep. Neither SiowFong nor I had taught her that sign, so we concluded that she must have seen that signal at day care.

The third is Lydia’s new way of communicating “bye bye”. We only taught her to do it one way, namely to move her hand to the right and to the left. A few days ago, we were surprised to see Lydia’s new method, which was to move her hand up and down, to say “bye bye”.

Photos: Aeroplane

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Lydia playing with her Fisher Price airplane, a gift from SiowFong's coworkers.
Because Lydia has many toys, SiowFong and I have reserved a few to bring out periodically to Lydia.
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Lydia playing with her airplane, which also plays a song called "High and Low".


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Lydia played with the airplane for a few minutes before some other toy attracted her interest.

Note: All of these pictures were taken on September 1, 2007 (today) in the living room of our home.

Dinner with Al and Florence

August 31, 2007


Dinner with Al and Florence

Lydia has three Chinese grandparents. Ma Wee is Lydia’s “Pour Pour” (maternal grandmother), and Pa Chin and Ma Chin are Lydia’s “Yeh Yeh” (paternal grandfather) and “Ah Mah” (paternal grandmother).

Al and Florence Crane, our dear octogenarian friends from church who have several biological grandchildren, are Lydia’s honorary Caucasian grandparents. Relationships require time, and over the last seven months, Lydia has been in the presence of Al and Florence a number of times, particularly the last two months when Lydia has been in the sanctuary during the first fifteen to twenty minutes of the 9:00 AM worship service.

Al and Florence have not cooked lunch or dinner at their home for years, preferring instead to patronize the local Old Country Buffet for their 3 PM dinner most days of the week. We enjoy their company, and we enjoy giving them a home cooked meal several times a year, so we invited them to our home for dinner tonight.

SiowFong and I recall that when we first met Lydia, she was afraid of Caucasians, especially those with gray or white hair. We surmised that during her first year of life, she probably never encountered anybody except Chinese people. Over the last seven months, however, that has changed substantially, and Lydia’s interactions with Al and Florence tonight demonstrated to us that she had overcome her initial fears of people who are not of Chinese descent. Before and after dinner, she brought out various books so that they could read to her, and she hugged both of them twice tonight (once was after dinner and once was just prior to their departure).

Photos: Lydia and Cochrans

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Brendan Cochran , Lydia, and Chelsya Cochran (who is almost 20 months old) looking at a book
Living room

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Chelsya pushing the scooter in which Lydia is sitting

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Chelsya, Nella Cochran, and Lydia playing with a yellow balloon

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Chelsya using both of her hands to grasp Lydia's right hand

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Chelsya and Lydia holding shopping bags

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Note: SiowFong took all of these pictures on August 27, 2007 at our home.

J. C. Penney versus Yuen Lui

August 31, 2007


Photographing Children


“Working with babies, small children and teenagers can be a frustrating experience for any professional photographer. Kids of all ages are unpredictable. Things can be going along well during a session when, for no apparent reason, the mood changes and you are suddenly dealing with an uncooperative subject or, in the worst case scenario, a screaming out-of-control subject. . .

Kids, especially little ones, are easily frightened. Therefore, extra care must be taken to provide a safe, fun, working environment. The photographic experience must, in and of itself, be enjoyable for the child. One key is understanding that while adults can control their environment, children cannot. . .

George Eastman, the great grandfather of the Eastman Kodak Company, once said that there are about 160 things that can go wrong in the taking of a picture. Clearly, he wasn’t talking about child’s portraiture – because there are easily double that number of things that can go wrong in the typical child’s sitting. But if children’s portraiture were that impossible, then there wouldn’t be so many children’s photographers in the world.

There are many rewards at excelling at this special skill. . .Australian photographer Suzette Nesire, who is extremely well regarded at home and now abroad, says. . .’I remember years ago Mum saying you don’t own your children, they’re only on loan. As a photographer I feel there is nothing more important than capturing your little ones and their early years --- their faces, their expressions, their little hands and their habits that constantly change. A portrait of your young child is a priceless reminder of a time that once passed and will never return again. Choose to make an investment in a portrait of your child, as pictures convey so much more than words can ever express.’”

(Source: Bill Hurter. Children’s Portrait Photography Handbook. Amherst Media: 2007. pages 7-9.)



J. C. Penney versus Yuen Lui


At 10:00 AM today, Lydia made her third individual visit to Yuen Lui for its “Back to School” promotion, the company’s least expensive portrait package at $ 20 that includes the sitting fee, one 8 inch x 10 inch photo, and eight or nine wallet sized photos. Two hours later, we kept our appointment at J. C. Penney for a family photo, and we placed an order for about $ 70 that consisted of one 10 x 13, two 8 x 10, six 5 x 7, four 3 x 5, and eight wallets (at Yuen Lui, this package would cost $ 260 when the Children’s Portrait Sale is occurring). (Before Lydia came into our lives, we never had pictures done at Yuen Lui, a regional chain of portrait studios, and except for last year, we had photos of us as a couple done at J. C. Penney, which operates a chain of studios nationwide, annually.)

The familiar phrase “You get what you pay for” accurately applies to most products and services. Though much costlier, the images made at Yuen Lui are far superior to those done at J. C. Penney because of the advanced education and skill of the photographers, the use of a tripod, the much less hurried nature of the sitting, the use of sophisticated lighting techniques, the larger size of the rooms, the variety of props, the diversity of backgrounds, and the ability to do post-processing (e.g. crop, retouch, etc.).

Note that sophistication of camera and lens equipment was not one of the criteria that distinguished the workmanship of the two studios. Beryl, our photographer at Yuen Lui who has been working there for over ten years, used an older Canon 10D digital SLR camera (6 megapixel) that has been discontinued for a few years with a Canon 24-85 mm lens. The cost of the camera is around $ 500, and the price of the Canon lens is around $ 300. The young lady photographer at J. C. Penney, whom SiowFong thought might be in her late teens or early twenties, utilized a Nikon D2x digital SLR camera (12 megapixel), which costs $ 4,400, with a Tamron 28-75 mm lens, which costs about $ 400. The moral of the story is simply this: the photographer matters much more than the camera and lens when it comes to making an exceptional photograph.

Our portrait club card with J. C. Penney expires February 2008, and we do not have any plans to renew it. We will continue to return to Yuen Lui, particularly for the semiannual Children’s Portrait Sale (January and February as well as June and July), for Lydia’s portraits.

Thursday, August 30, 2007

Photos: Column and Folding Arms

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Lydia is striking her serious pose.

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Lydia changing the position of her folded arms




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Lydia looking at her mom, who is not in the picture, while folding her arms.
Note: All of these pictures were taken on July 30, 2007 in the dining room of our home.
Photo notes: A single flash fired through a white umbrella that was about three feet away from Lydia to the left of the camera (e.g. to the right of Lydia) provided the only illumination for the images. A commander unit on the camera triggered this remote flash using an infrared signal. Another essential is the nearby parent. SiowFong is sitting near Lydia to Lydia's right, and she is encouraging Lydia to fold her arms for these pictures. Finally, color matching of Lydia's clothing with the hue of the column also helps to draw the viewer's attention to Lydia's face.
Earlier this year, I stumbled onto a website called Strobist (www.strobist.blogspot.com) which teaches off-camera lighting with small flash units that is written by David Hobby, a photographer working for the Baltimore Sun. I have learned SO much about creative use of portable lighting from this blog, which is only about two years old. Word about this blog has spread like a wildfire, and about a month ago, this blog received its 1,000,000th visit.

Transition to Day Care: Day # 3

August 30, 2007


Transition to Day Care: Day # 3

Today was Lydia’s last of the three introductory days to day care. SiowFong and Lydia arrived at Whizz Kids at 8:45 AM.

After they entered the gate [and before they entered the door to the facility], they saw Abida, Lydia’s teacher, and Lydia whimpered a little. SiowFong accompanied Lydia to her class, so Lydia did not cry. After staying and playing with Lydia for a half hour while talking with Abida, SiowFong began to depart. When Lydia saw that her mom was leaving, she started crying while being carried by Abida, who commented to SiowFong that her son cried for one month when he first went to school in Pakistan. (Two days earlier Abida disclosed to SiowFong that Mia, the only other girl in the Waddler class with Lydia who has been at the center for two months, still frequently cries, and until Lydia arrived at the day care two days ago, Abida was frequently carrying Mia to forestall Mia’s sobbing. Abida also said that Mia calls her “mama”.)

At 1:55 PM, SiowFong picked up Lydia. The staff gave verbal comments and a written note to SiowFong about Lydia. Here are the highlights: “Today’s activities included colors with markers, play with animal toys and water, read story book, and sing ABC song. Lydia loves to play outside and held onto Abida’s hand when she was walking around in the playground area. Today’s lunch consisted of Tuscan white bean and potato soup, turkey rolls, apple sauce, and milk. She did not eat much at lunch (this was the verbal feedback); however, ‘I ate some’ was circled on the paper. She napped from 12:10 PM to 1:45 PM, immediately after lunch. Her diaper changes occurred at 9:00 AM (urine) and at 11:00 AM (a bowel movement).”

Transition to Day Care: Day # 2

August 29, 2007


Transition to Day Care: Day # 2

It was my turn to take Lydia to day care this morning. After I strapped Lydia into her car seat and after we waved bye bye to SiowFong, I knew that daddy’s and Lydia’s drive today would different one from our past car trips, but I did not realize just how different it would be after we reached our destination.

Here are the words that I used to describe today’s journey in my email to SiowFong:

“Lydia was quiet during the entire car trip. When I pointed out the Whizz Kids building to her at the intersection at 8:25 AM, she did not utter a sound. After I parked the car, she remained silent when I put on her shoes.

As soon as we entered the day care, however, she began to make noises and strained her body towards the door. When she saw Abida, the Afghani teacher, Lydia instantly burst into tears. She clutched onto me tightly with her arms and legs, and as I was passing her to the teacher, Lydia used her legs to try to stay attached to me. With tears rolling down her cheeks and her cries of ‘mama’ and ‘dada’ filling the room, Lydia became the center of attention as the other boys and girls kept staring at her.

After quickly confirming that Lydia would be staying until lunch, Abida carried Lydia around the room, and she asked me to leave.”

After I said goodbye to Lydia and as I slowly walked back to the car, I could still hear Lydia’s cries. As I drove to work, I wondered how long Lydia would react in this manner.

During my day at work, images of Lydia’s tearful face and her sobbing frequently flashed across my mind as I pondered how she was doing.

Later SiowFong emailed the following:

“Abida left at 10:30 AM as she was not feeling well. Fatima, [the Middle Eastern teacher of the Toddlers (the next class that is comprised of children who are two years old and older)], replaced her, and Lydia had to deal with yet another new face. Fatima said she stopped crying during story telling time [which occurs between 9:00 AM and 9:15 AM] and the outdoor session [which occurs between 9:45 AM and 10:30 AM].

During lunch time [11:45 AM to 12:30 PM], Fatima carried her and tried feeding her. Lunch was apple sauce, Mexican rice and beans, milk, and corn. [By that time SiowFong had arrived at the center to pick up Lydia.]

I was hiding and watching her. She hardly ate and cried on and off. But she did give Fatima a hug before she left.

At home, she ate rice, peas, and beef steak.”

Transition to Day Care: Day # 1

August 28, 2007


Transition to Day Care: Day # 1

Today was the first day of trying to ease Lydia into the three-day day care routine that she will experience regularly beginning in September.

After awakening this morning, SiowFong remarked, “Lydia’s a big girl now. She’s going to go to day care today.” SiowFong explained to Lydia that she would be going to day care today, but neither of us knew if Lydia understood her mom’s message. After Lydia drank her 5 ounces of whole milk supplemented with 4 ounces of formula for breakfast, I changed her diaper, and SiowFong dressed her in a white sweater and red pants. SiowFong and Lydia left our home, and at 8:45, they arrived at the Whizz Kids facility.

When SiowFong brought Lydia to the Waddlers room, Lydia sensed that something was different today, and she resisted entering the room, where four other toddlers less than two years of age were playing (one child was absent today). After Lydia entered the room and began playing with the other children, SiowFong briefly conversed with Abida, an Afghani lady in her 40s, an experienced child care worker, and a mother of seven children. At 9:15 AM, SiowFong exited during the children’s snack time.

After completing a few errands, SiowFong returned to the day care at 10:25 PM. At that time, Lydia and the other children were playing outside. SiowFong reported in her email to me and other family members the following: “She wasn’t crying, and Abida, her teacher, was carrying her. But I could tell she had cried earlier as her eyes were puffy. Abida did not want to disclose how long she cried but said she was a good girl.”

Before Lydia left with SiowFong to have lunch with two of SiowFong’s ex-colleagues at a Thai restaurant, Lydia hugged Abida, and she waved bye bye to her four little friends.

Monday, August 27, 2007

Photos: Zoo Visit # 2

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Lydia observing gorillas

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Lydia hugging and noserubbing a bronze sea otter statue


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A close up picture of Lydia noserubbing the bronze sea otter sculpture

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Lydia looking at green parakeet that is perched on the finger of another zoo visitor, a Korean lady who is holding her 14-month old son with her left arm

That green parakeet in the picture resembles SiowFong's 10-year old parakeet, Kakadu.


Note: SiowFong took all of these pictures on August 23, 2007 at the Woodland Park Zoo in Seattle, WA.

The Day Care Dilemma

August 27, 2007


The Day Care Dilemma


Because this is the last week of SiowFong’s Family and Medical Leave Act time off, day care for Lydia becomes a reality next week for the three days of the week when I working. Tomorrow is the first of three days of transitioning Lydia from home care by a parent or grandparent to center-based care as SiowFong will take Lydia to Whizz Kids for an hour. On Wednesday, Lydia will spend two hours there, and on Thursday, Lydia will return for a half day experience.

Dr. Marianne Niefert, a pediatrician who is known as “Dr. Mom”, a columnist for Baby Talk Magazine, and a mother of five who used day care for her children, describes well the dilemma that we encountered when we elected to place Lydia in day care because SiowFong wanted to continue working:

“Few parenting choices are weightier than the decision to work outside the home and delegate partial responsibility for your child’s welfare to an alternate caretaker. . .I, like so many parents, have wrestled with guilt, anxiety, and uncertainty when my precious and priceless children were temporarily entrusted to the care of another. . .There can be no greater priority than to ensure that your children are physically safe, emotionally secure, and intellectually stimulated during your absence.

The majority of children under age six receive care and education by a nonparent. For many families, this decision is based on the choice or need for the parent or parents to work outside the home. In fact, 75 percent of women with children under five are employed, and more than 25 million Americans require care for their preschool children while at work. . .

Even when parents know the importance of high-quality care, few manage to find affordable, accessible, quality options. The present status of child care in America remains a hodgepodge of inconsistent quality services and settings. Often the care is mediocre. . .

Quality child care is much more than babysitting. High-quality child care promotes the social, emotional, intellectual, language, and physical development of children in an emotionally nurturing and physically safe environment. Numerous studies have shown that high-quality early care and education results in significant, lasting, positive effects on later school achievement, high school graduation rates, and social outcomes.

Conversely, lack of early stimulation has been linked with lower academic performance and various social ills. Thus quality child care has been called ‘essential brain food.’ Yet many child care settings do not adequately stimulate the development of young children. . .

Strict national licensing standards for child care providers and accreditation for child care centers are necessary to assure children receive quality care.”

Marianne Neifert. Dr. Mom’s Prescriptions for Preschoolers: Seven Essentials for the Formative Years. Zondervan: 2001. pages 215-218.)

Photos: Sofa

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Lydia lounging on the leather sofa early in morning after her diaper change and after her bottle of milk and formula
August 14, 2007

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At this age, Lydia learns by replicating that which she observes, and since she has seen me sleeping on the sofa occasionally in the evenings, she has learned to lie there also.

August 14, 2007



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Lydia playing with her sock, something that she has always enjoyed doing since she came into our lives this January.

August 14, 2007



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Lydia playing with a lamb on the sofa.
(Bill and Annette Fanslow gave this gift to Lydia, and one interesting thing about this soft toy is that it will play music if one of its legs is squeezed.)
August 18, 2007
Note: All pictures were taken in the living room of our home.
Photo notes: No flash was used for any of these pictures. As I have said previously on past photo postings of Lydia, shooting a series of pictures of a toddler or preschooler yields many different facial expressions and actions, so I always enjoy taking these types of pictures.

Lunch with Nella, Brendan, and Chelsya

August 27, 2007


Lunch with Nella, Brendan, and Chelsya


Being a temporary stay-at-home mom for SiowFong during the last few weeks when she has been off from work due to family leave has given her opportunities that she otherwise would not have had. One of those opportunities is having people over to our home for lunch on a weekday.

One of SiowFong’s goals during her six weeks of leave was to spend time with the other families of New Hope’s Group 07-05 who were in China with us to finalize their adoption of their daughters. Shortly after noon today, Nella Cochran, a permanent stay-at-home mom, came with her two children, Brendan (her son who will be entering kindergarten in three days) and Chelsya (her Chinese daughter who is Lydia’s age), to have lunch and an early afternoon playtime session with SiowFong and Lydia.

With respect to meal preparations for the children, SiowFong stir-fried some small chicken pieces, which she combined with small pasta shells, boiled some snow peas and miniature carrots, and diced the watermelon. Once Brendan and Chelsya saw Lydia’s toys, however, their appetites for lunch evaporated. Lydia’s appetite for lunch also diminished as SiowFong reported that she was focusing much of her attention on Brendan and Chelsya, who has the best English language skills of the three adopted girls from China who are currently 19 months of age).

The three children played with a variety of toys in the living room, and the only time conflict erupted among the three occurred when all of them simultaneously wanted to play with the plastic scooter. Later, everyone went downstairs and played in the library area. Brendan especially enjoyed playing with SiowFong’s big exercise ball.

By the time the Cochrans said their goodbyes to SiowFong and Lydia, it was already 2:45 PM.

Photos: Lydia and Aunt Mary at Country Village

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Aunt Mary holding Lydia
Aunt Mary is Mary Dietsch, SiowFong's good friend since 1991.
Lydia later ate plenty of mashed potatoes and meatloaf for lunch.
Country Cafe restaurant

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Aunt Mary holding Lydia's hand on the carousel



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Lydia sitting with Aunt Mary while they experienced the nine-minute train ride that goes around the village.



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Aunt Mary is holding Lydia so that Lydia can see the pigeons in a cage.
Note: SiowFong took all of these pictures on August 22, 2007 at Country Village in Bothell, WA.

Language Update

August 26, 2007


Language Update


When Lydia came into our lives on January 4, 2007, SiowFong created a Microsoft Word document called “Lydia’s Firsts”, a brief outline of milestones and events in Lydia’s life that SiowFong has been updating.

A number of entries for August 2007 deal with the words that Lydia began speaking. On August 15, for example, Lydia said “ant” in Mandarin. Two days later, Lydia began saying “nana” to indicate banana. On August 19, when Luis, Patsy, and Carissa were staying with us, Lydia called Carissa “je je”, which is the Mandarin word for big sister.

“Pour pour”, the Mandarin word for maternal grandmother that Ma Wee has been waiting to hear for the last eight months, first came forth from Lydia’s mouth on August 21. Two days later, she vocalized, “Bear bear”, in reference to some of her favorite stuffed bear toys. On August 24, she said “baby”, one of our frequently used nicknames for her. Today at the Boyces’ barbecue, SiowFong and I asked that Lydia refer to Andrew Kowski, the son of Tom and Shannon Kowski who is 3 years of age, her “gor gor,” which means older brother in Chinese, and she managed to do it.


Tips for Learning Chinese


The following advice comes from an article entitled, “Just One Word. . .(That’s Chinese for ‘Plastics’)” that was published in the March 17-18, 2007 edition of The Wall Street Journal on page P5:


Start early

Learning a new language after age 10 can be difficult, so experts recommend placing children in Chinese programs as early as kindergarten.


Travel

The best way to learn a language is to go where it’s spoken. Teachers suggest looking into school travel-abroad or exchange programs.


Be patient

Chinese can take three to four times longer to learn than French or Spanish, teachers say. The language has multiple tones, so the syllable ‘ma,’ for example has four different meanings ranging from ‘horse’ to ‘mother’.


Learn the culture

Find Chinese communities in your area and attend events that will acclimate your child to the culture and traditions. The local Chinese consulate may also help. Visit the Asia Society’s Web site for more ideas: http://askasia.org/chinese/.


Stick to the school day

Learning Chinese after school can be difficult for today’s time-pressed kids. Look for classroom or school settings instead.”

Photos: Artist

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Lydia's first encounter with chalk, chalkboard, and eraser
One of the unique aspects of this pediatric office is the presence of a chalkboard in each examination room that is placed at a height that is ideal for toddlers.

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Lydia deciding which piece of chalk to use



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Lydia drawing on the chalkboard

Although Lydia prefers to use her left hand for many tasks, she will utilize her right hand for writing and drawing.


Note: All pictures were taken on July 24, 2007 in an exam room at the International Adoption Medicine Center at the University of Washington's Pediatric Care Center in Seattle, WA.

Barbecue at the Boyces

August 26, 2007

Barbecue at the Boyces

This afternoon found us at the home of Jim and Julie Boyce, our friends whom SiowFong initially met at her workplace, for a classic American summertime experience, the backyard barbecue. The other guests included the Kowski family, Tom (another coworker of SiowFong’s), Shannon, and Andrew, their son who recently turned 3 years of age. The wonderful news is that Jim and Julie are expecting their first child, a son, this December, and much of our conversation centered on child rearing and parenting.

For Lydia, this was the fourth time that she had eaten in an outdoor environment. (The other occasions included the Fourth of July backyard barbecue at the home of our friends, Matt Kaing and Mayfanna Li on July 4, 2007, our family dinner in the picnic shelter at Paramount Park on July 10, 2007, and the Amgen company picnic at Remlinger Farm on August 18, 2007.) Some of Lydia’s favorite experiences today included munching on the sour cream and onion flavored Baked Lay’s potato chips and eating fruit (strawberries and blueberries). Near the end of lunch, Andrew, a very well-behaved child, brought out his Thomas the Train computer toy, and when Lydia saw that it had a keyboard, a mouse, and an LCD screen and when she heard that it also made noise, she instantly wanted to play with it too, and Andrew kindly shared the toy with her.

After the meal, the Boyces gave us a tour of their nursery. While we were there, Jim and Julie presented their gifts to Lydia, including a Peter Rabbit soft toy and a hardcover book with various Peter Rabbit stories authored by Beatrix Potter. After Julie handed the Peter Rabbit stuffed animal to Lydia, Lydia quickly held, snuggled, and kissed it. (As a young child, SiowFong loved reading about the adventures and misadventures of Peter Rabbit, so she was delighted that Jim and Julie gave these gifts to Lydia.)

We are really excited for Jim and Julie, and we look forward to seeing their little boy next year!

Photos: Lydia and Men

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Ashwin Rao showing Lydia a picture that he had just taken of her.
July 6, 2007

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Pat Hurst placing his head on one of Lydia's favorite stuffed animals, her big pink dog. Lydia later laid her head on the dog next to Pat's head.


August 17, 2007


Note: Both pictures were taken in the living room of our home.

Barbara Harris

August 26, 2007


Barbara Harris

“Giving and receiving gifts as a way to express love is a universal phenomenon. The English word gift comes from the Greek word charis, which means ‘grace, or an undeserved gift.’ The idea behind this is that if the gift is deserved, then it is a payment. A true gift is not payment for services rendered; rather, it is an expression of love for the individual and is freely given by the donor.” (Source: Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. The Five Love Languages of Children. Northfield Publishing: 1997. page 73.)

Nearly two weeks ago, Barbara Harris, an elderly acquaintance whom I have known for a few years, surprised me with her second gift for Lydia, a lifelike Ashton Drake collectible doll entitled “Beautiful Newborn”. Five months ago, in mid-March, after learning from my colleagues that SiowFong and I had adopted Lydia, she gave Lydia a beautiful pink spring dress.

As Ms. Harris handed the heavy cardboard box that contained the doll, she informed me that although she had three grandsons, she did not have any granddaughters. With a smile on her face, she quietly explained that she did not want to burden her son with distributing her special possessions. Then while looking me straight in the eyes, she emphasized that she really wanted Lydia to have the doll.

At that point, I was nearly speechless. Ms. Harris had never even met Lydia, and yet she freely extended her generosity to her. Before I accepted her special present for Lydia. I thanked her profusely for her kindness and thoughtfulness.

When SiowFong examined the doll at home that evening, she commented how exquisite and delicate it was. SiowFong then placed the doll in its box on a top shelf in the library since she is saving it for Lydia when Lydia is old enough to know how to handle it and care for it properly.


Information about the “Beautiful Newborn” Doll

Designed by doll artist Yolando Bello who specializes in portraits of babies and young children in real-life situations and partially constructed from porcelain, the “Beautiful Newborn” doll, a decorative doll which measures about 12 inches long, represents a healthy two day old baby daughter who has just been discharged from the hospital. The doll, which is clothed in her pajamas with a matching cap and matching socks, is sleeping, and enclosed with the doll is a receiving blanket. The card enclosed with the doll reads, “Everything about her is so tiny, so precious. . .the perfect reminder of God’s greatest gift to us all, the Miracle of Life.”